You know that saying by Albert Einstein, “Problems cannot be solved with the same mind set that created them”?
When I first heard this, years ago, it made so much sense to me.
As a life coach, I have had amazing opportunities to work with people searching to step out of the problems and seek the solutions. I have worked with incredibly brilliant people, people who are really hurting, university students, PhDs, business people, people working at home, and many others.
And I have come to the conclusion that there are no permanent solutions that from the outside in.
Lasting change only happens from the inside out.
Recently, I was reading one of David Hawkins—a profound philosopher and writer—books, Healing and Recovery. Like Einstein, he says that problems need to be resolved from a higher view point than the level they were made from.
“At the higher level, the problems automatically resolve themselves because of that shift in point of view one might see there was no problem at all.”
So I started to research, as I always do, and drew on my life experience as well as deep intuition, to delve deeper.
Here’s what I’ve landed with. Let me know what you think or if I’ve missed something significant.
1. Control: Know when you do and don’t have control over specific problems. This discernment process is worthwhile, but it sure takes time and support. Quiet time, to connect with your deep inner knowing is helpful during this time.
2. Let go: Once you’ve decided that you don’t have control over something or some aspect of the problem, then don’t waste even a minute worrying about it. Let go. This also looks easier than it is. But practice helps. The ego loves to hand on to these things like a steel trap. Notice if that is happening and move on.
3. Don’t live in the problem: Set a time limit for indulging focus on the problem. Psychologist Abraham Maslow allowed clients to talk about the problem for 15 minutes. Maybe you need a friend, a coach or a therapist to move through this. Don’t live in the problem. Know the difference between the problem and the solution.
4. Live in the solutions: Use both logical and intuitive approaches to find solutions.
a. Left Brain: Try objective qualities like logic, reason and critical thinking. Find ways to use these important tools like writing lists, pros and cons and thinking things through.
b. Right Brain: Use subjective qualities like body awareness, imagination and spontaneity. Write your dreams, dance like no one’s watching, listen to the heart, and observe your breath.
5. Cultivate your intuition:
• Expand your attunement to presence
• Prioritize self-care so that your physical container is potent
• Build self-compassion so that self-doubt interferes less or not at all
• Forgive your self and others and then the mind can more easily stay in this present moment
• Practice Mindfulness in as many areas as you can: eating, exercise, watching TV, social media, etc.
• Create powerful and nurturing communities to support and challenge you
• Know when your soul is thriving and when it’s not.
6. Disruptions happen: Sometimes disruptions require a significant shift in your journey of problem solving so that that means you need to pay attention to your goals or aspirations. But sometimes the disruption is just an interruption. Pay attention and you will begin to know and trust yourself more on when you shift your focus and when you stay on course.
You can move through any problem or issue using a map like I’ve crafted above to guide you. Find a map and coach to help you through your issues, to help you live in to the solutions.
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves… Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” Rilke
If you long to live in the solution and want a coaching companion on your journey, call or email me to set up a 30 minute complimentary coaching session to see if coaching is right for you and if we’re a fit.