I have a confession. I have the habit of thinking positively. In fact, I am looking forward to winter; to switching my trowel with my snow shovel, my runners with my skates, and my quilt with my duvet. In winter I get a reprieve from the mosquitoes, (which are a one sided love affair) and a break from weeding. In the darkness is the majesty of Christmas lights especially in downtown Napanee and Upper Canada Village.
“When a person doesn’t have gratitude, something is missing in his or her humanity. A person can almost be defined by his or her attitude toward gratitude.” Elie Wiesel
Are you mired in negativity? Were you one of the many people last winter who collectively moaned how terrible last winter was? That it was so cold, long, and dreary. I grew up in Montreal with winters lasting five to six months with several blizzards each season – so much worse than the winters we have in Kingston, where I live now. So, I’m still thinking positively. When most Canadians are travelling south, I travel to other wintery destinations such as New York City.
Have I lost you? Are you screaming that there is nothing great about winter?
I experienced the power of daily gratitude the year my mom died. Practicing this skill kept me afloat and helped me through my grief. In my darkest moments, I kept looking for and tracking all of the things I could feel were positive. The palliative care doctor who called me the day my mother arrived on her floor to say that my mom was in good hands. When I had to be by my mom’s hospital bed, many people were ready to step in to take my place on a moment’s notice. In Brooklyn, surrounded with my family, I celebrated my nephew’s auspicious, Chinese 99th day celebration. He was full of smiles and happiness. I re-experienced Christmas morning with my best friend’s 4-year daughter who was full of excitement and joy. Being invited to play at St. George’s Cathedral at Advent was also a highlight for me. My gratitude is endless and is my antidote to the negativity that surrounds us daily. Will you help me add to the light by being more grateful or will you stay in the collective darkness?
Susan teaches a weekly Feldenkrais® class exploring gentle movements in a supportive, calm environment. Susan is a life long learner and enjoys many creative pursuits such as baking, singing, dancing, playing the piano, and dreaming.